Image taken from Sydney Morning Herald
Bernadette imparts wisdom on how you should retire in style and live your best life.
Stumbling upon an article on Iris Apfel, fashion icon and stylist, Bernadette sends an important message to those who feel helpless because of their age.
“We start selling ourselves short in our 50s, we’re cutting out a lot of it in half. And it’s crazy because when you get to that stage they really are the best years of your life.”
Good morning everyone! It's Bernadette here. And I am just dropping in to say hello and have a bit of a chat.
On the subject of style, well really the subject's not style. It's around living your best life. Now before someone joins our training I have a conversation with them to see an idea of whether they're a good fit like I really pride myself on good results and I've become quite selective about who comes into our trainings because I don't want people just to pay for training and not get results because that's not good for you and it's definitely not good for me so I want to make sure that the people we take in are really up to it, have got the right mindset, and so on.
And in those conversations I often hear this theme about, "You know I'm in my 50s.." and like there's this sense that it's the end of the run and like I'm not completely blameless here. I do have times and I think "How old am I?" and "Maybe I should be at home knitting booties.." or whatever I do.
But anyhow I'm not doing that! And I saw this article on the weekend I just really wanted to share with you. This woman is freaking amazing and I really think it's awesome our blue illusion to adopt someone like her as a brand ambassador. She's 97 years old do you mind, and look at her she's a freaking ball of style and her opening sentence actually had me. "Retiring at an early age is a fate worse than death," says fashion icon Iris Apfel at 97 with no sign of slowing down she's become a bit of an authority on the subject.
Well look at the woman she is amazing and you know it's really important that if you are dealing with someone that you do develop role models not like you've got a copy, copy how someone else operates. But just so that we stay motivated and inspired we all need that at times and I think that ours is an amazing motivator.
I've shared with some people that my greatest mentor was my neighbour - when we lived in Baycroft - my neighbour became an investor when she became a single mum in her forties. So she really didn't start investing until her 50s. And she was an active investor, renovator, developer right up until shortly prior to her dying when she did just before Christmas at the age of 94.
And I just think that if we start selling ourselves short in our 50s we're cutting out a lot of it in half. And it's crazy because when you get to that stage they really are the best years of your life.
You've done the hard yards with your kids - if you've got kids, you've done the hard yards with your partner, you've either kept him or you've moved on and whatever you've chosen is fine as long as you've made a decision that empowers you and gives you a great life, and you're at the stage where you can really look at what you want to do okay? Some of us still have, you know, they call us the "Sandwich Generation" we have parents, elderly parents that we need to care for but that's I see that more as a privilege than a burden because I think as Australians we don't really value the the wisdom that our elders can impart on us.
So being able to spend time with with those people in our lives is an opportunity to grow but if you are you know like feeling like "Oh God, you know I'm in my 50s" or even "I'm in my 60s it's all over" I'm sorry but it is not all over. So if that was what Iris thought when she was in her 50s or 60s she's lived almost another life and she's done it with style and with spunk and you know that's what I want you to take on and I'm certainly taking it on because I love my life and I want it to get better and better and of course that means we've got to look after our health so that's paramount and on sometimes not that good at that so I have to get better at it.
But let's be in this together and really live our best lives. And for those of you babies that are still in your 20s 30s or 40s it will come to you soon enough so watch and learn is all I can say.
Now that's my message for today I really hope you've enjoyed it. I'll be in again in a few days to impart some more wisdom.