“The “Are You Okay?” movement is a great initiative. We get really busy in our lives and often our interaction with the people around us can be dismissive.”
Hi everyone it’s Bernadette. So I’m at Bondi at the moment, we’ve just had the photographer through so I came down to let him in and that’s all gone really well so very exciting because the listing will be going up shortly. We’re still making a decision about agents.
Normally I make the decision very early in the piece but there’s been a few things that have shifted over the last year that we’ve owned this property so we’re still you know sort of thinking about that but anyhow.
So the reason for this live is the fact that it’s “Are you okay? Day” Now and I wanted to say something about it mainly because some of you would know that most would not that I discovered – probably about probably about 10 years ago now maybe – that I had been I basically suffered from quite severe depression and anxiety and I’ve had it pretty much all my adult life and really didn’t understand why I was feeling so terrible.
And so it’s something that I am acutely aware of and I think the “Are You Okay?” movement is a really great initiative because you know like we get really busy in our lives and often can you know our interaction with the people around us can be quite maybe dismissive is not the word but it’s certainly for myself I’m often so busy I don’t take enough notice of the people that are around me.
So I guess really stopping to think about the people that you care for and the people that you come into contact with and checking in with them is definitely something that I have taken on and it’s a great thing to do. But as a sufferer of a mental illness it really does take some courage to to really own up to it and I have to say when I first discovered that that was what was making me feel so rubbish I actually got treated straightaway and responded really well to the treatment. Like it was miraculous like within about three weeks I was on medication obviously and still am.
Within about three weeks I just felt like myself and I felt like I had not felt since I was like 10 years old and I was just so excited about it. And the reaction I got from my best friend at the time was one of absolute I think the word is disgust.
The fact that I was taking medication for depression she like seriously she we ended up in a screaming match. And I just I thought, “My God the stigma around this is still there!” You know like she was someone that I knew really well and I thought knew me really well and that was her reaction.
Now I know that it didn’t come from you know wanting to wish ill on me it came from a place of caring but based on her values. But you know to really stand up against that it’s really tough. And so I really commend the people that have the illness and actually are willing to come out and say “yeah I’ve got it. I take medication for it. I need to be, I need to care for myself. This is what I need to do.” And because until it becomes something that is spoken about just like heart
illness or any other illness we are going to have to live with these prejudices – hey we’re a minority group.
Actually probably not a minority group – a large percentage of the population do suffer from it but it’s just not spoken about. So I’m declaring “Are You Okay? Day” a day to make it okay to speak about the fact that we might be suffering from anxiety or depression and I know that some of you do too. And so you know look after one another.
Don’t criticise or condemn how someone’s managing it. Just look after them be kind. Be kind with your words and actions towards one another and life will be a lot easier and a lot better for all of us.
This property is on the market shortly. I might just take you for a quick walk around to show you. We’re
hoping that the sun would come out for the photos because what you can’t see out there is there’s a magnificent view of the ocean but you know what? We just have to deal with it. So this is a project that I did with David, my son,
who is also our architect. So our input was minimal. I guess what my job was to try and keep the project fairly mainstream because you probably know that’s the kitchen in there.